How To MASTER Your Emotions (Animated Story)

How To MASTER Your Emotions (Animated Story)

– Meet Ben. Ben had very abusive
parents who would often neglect him and sometimes
they would even beat him. So at the young age of nine he was placed into a foster home and the only thing that Ben truly wanted in his life was to get taken in by
a real loving family. In his mind this was the
only way for him to be happy. And if he couldn’t do this
he was destined to live a life of unhappiness and depression. Ben’s foster home was in pretty bad shape and he had to fight for
his most basic needs like having enough food
to eat every single day or having a nice bed to sleep in. Even wearing nice comfortable clothes. And this environment led
Ben to become very emotional and from a very early
age Ben would experience the full spectrum of emotions. There would be moments when he would be filled with rage when
another kid was bullying him and moments of pure joy and hope when he thought a family would adopt him. Followed by moments of deep sadness when the adoption parents
would chose somebody else. His life was like a rollercoaster, consisting of times a great
highs and very low lows. And this caused Ben to become
very emotionally unstable. There were some families
who were interested in adopting Ben, but
the moment that he saw one thing that he liked about a family he would envision this
amazing future with them and he would get lost
in this magical fantasy of how happy he would be and how amazing his life would turn out. And the moment when he saw something that he didn’t like about a family he would get lost in a fantasy of how much he would hate them and how he would be depressed and
sad for his whole life. He was not able to think
logically or rationally about the actual consequences
of making a choice. And of course, these extreme emotions would put a lot of families
off when they met him and they wouldn’t want to bring such an emotional person
into their family. So little Ben went many
years with no family and he would watch all of his friends get adopted, one by one,
leaving him all alone. After a few years Ben started to act out and he started to get into fights with the other foster kids or arguing with the foster parents. But it wasn’t until one
day when he got in trouble with a police officer, Ben was simply crossing the road when he shouldn’t have and the police officer
came up to him and said, “Hey, you know jaywalking
is illegal, right?” And instead of just
apologizing to the officer Ben started to argue with him saying how he was being overly sensitive. Saying how he wasn’t even jaywalking and how stupid the cop was being. And within minutes the situation was completely blown out of proportion and Ben was verbally
assaulting the officer and the officer was about to arrest Ben until he found out that
he lived in a foster home. Fortunately the officer had
a soft spot for foster kids. So he walked him back to his home and told the foster parents, “This young man is out of control. “He broke the law, then
proceeded to verbally “assault me, please deal with him.” The foster parents sat Ben down and said, “Listen Ben, you need
to start acting right. “No family wants to take in a child “who is emotionally
unstable and out of control. “Do you understand?” Ben said, “Yes” and then they left. Ben’s anger quickly turned into sadness. To solve this the foster parents just gave Ben some boxing gloves and they told him to hit the punching bag until he was tired and
that’s exactly what he did. So one night Ben was
hitting the boxing bags and an older man who was a
boxing trainer noticed him. He was impressed by his
passion and he saw potential. So the trainer went up to Ben and asked, “You’re punching pretty hard kid, “have you ever properly boxed before?” “Nope, I just hit the bags
until I’m tired,” Ben replied. “You want to try boxing someone “for real,” the trainer asked? “Sure, whatever” Ben said defensively. “Put on this headgear and hop in the ring. “I’ll grab my friend to come and box you.” And within minutes Ben was
boxing a real life person and when he was in the ring he was completely consumed by his emotions. He felt anger, fear, ego all rising up and boiling inside of him. And then all of a sudden, he found himself running towards his opponent and he tried punching him with all of his strength, but his opponent dodged it and then Ben was hit with a quick jab to his jaw which knocked him clean on his
feet and the fight was over. The trainer came over
and asked if he was okay. “Yeah, I’m fine,” Ben said defensively. The trainer told him that
it’s good to have heart but you can’t just run at
your opponent like that you have to be calm and calculated
in order to win a fight. With tears and anger on
his face Ben just ignored the trainer and he packed
up is bags to go and leave. As Ben was leaving the trainer said, “Few fighters have passion like yours, “but that temper is going
to get you into trouble. “If you want to learn how
to master your emotions “and fight properly, let me know.” Ben stormed off and went
home and when he got home he saw a kid that had
bullied him in the past named Lucas and he was eating the dinner that was supposed to be saved for him. Ben said, “Why are you eating my dinner?” “You were gone.” “So what, it was fridge I
obviously was going to eat it.” “Shouldn’t you be hitting some boxing bag “or something or getting arrested? “It seems like that’s all
you’re good at these days.” Ben became enraged by this comment so he hit the food off the table, pushed the kid off the chair. And before Ben could do anything else a foster parent quickly grabbed him and took him to his room
and the foster parent said, “If you ever assault
another kid like that again “I will turn you over
to the police myself. “Do you understand?” Ben said, “Yes.” “If you can’t learn
how to control yourself “I’m going to kick you out of this house. “Do you understand?” Ben said, “Yes.” And the foster parent
stormed out of the room. Ben laid in his room that night and he wasn’t sure what
to do, what to feel and he felt completely alone. Ben had no idea how to
control his emotions and then he thought of the boxing trainer who was the only person
who had actually expressed interest in helping him. “I guess I have nothing to lose “to see what he has to say,”
Ben thought to himself. So the next day he went
back to the gym and saw him. Ben went up to the coach and said, ” Hey, I’m sorry for
storming off like that. “Do you still want to
teach me how to fight?” The coach smiled and
said, “Well, that depends “will you follow everything
I say without question?” “I guess.” “Great, the first and most important thing “that I want you to do is to read a book “called, The Laws of Human Nature “and once you are done reading that “I want you to tell me if you think “you are more of a rider or a horse.” “A rider or a horse, what
are you talking about, “I thought you were gonna
teach me how to fight?” “And that’s exactly what I’m going to do, “but first you have to understand “how to master your emotions. “And don’t bother coming back to me “until you are ready to talk
about what’s in that book “because it’ll be really hard for you.” Ben rolled his eyes and said, “Okay fine,” and then he went home. And over the next few days
he started to read the book and then he finally got
to the chapter called, The Rider and The Horse. As Ben was reading the chapter
he started to feel weird and that weird feeling
quickly turned into anger the more he read. Ben thought to himself, “This stupid book “is trying to tell me who I am. “Telling me that I have all these flaws. “It doesn’t know what I’ve
been through or who I am.” And he threw the book away
and he went downstairs to get some food and then he saw Lucas, the boy who had bullied
him many times in the past. The boy who he had almost
fought a couple of days ago. And he saw him saying
goodbye to the foster parents because a family had decided to adopt him. In this moment Ben was filled with envy, jealousy and anger because Lucas was getting the thing that
he wanted most in his life. In this moment Ben realized that if he wanted to have a real loving family he would have to change something. He had to do something,
but he didn’t really know how to do this and there
was only one person who actually wanted to help. So, he decided to trust the boxing coach and he read the book. So the next day he went back
to the gym to see the coach. “So, did you finish the
book,” the coach said? “Yes,” Ben said. “Great, so are you more
of a horse or a rider?” And Ben took a deep breath
and said, “A horse.” “Very good, do you want me to teach “you how to be more of a rider?” “Yes,” Ben said. And it was in this moment when
Ben started on the journey to master his emotions, he learned what his emotions meant,
where they came from and why he was feeling them. And through the boxing coaches teachings he learned how to control his rage, his sadness, his passion through learning about the mental side of boxing. And in the next year Ben
had actually achieved what he wanted most in his life which was to get taken
in by a real family. It turned out that the boxing coach and his wife were talking about adopting a kid for the past few years. And the new and improved Ben
seemed like an appropriate fit. So, you were probably wondering what the book said about
the horse and the rider and I’m going to explain
it to you right now. The ancient Greeks had a
really profound metaphor for how emotions work within all humans and it is known as The
Horse and The Rider. The rider is our thinking self. It’s the part of us that
plans and problem solves. It will tell you, “Hey,
I want to go that way.” But, it’s the horse that represents our emotional self and it provides the power for our journey. It’s a wild animal that
compels us to take action. Without a rider it will move
impulsively without thinking and oftentimes it will
get us into trouble. Without the rider there is no
directed movement or purpose but, without the horse there
is now energy or power. The one without the other is useless. In most people the horse
dominates and the rider is weak. And Ben was an extreme example of that. But in some people the rider is too strong and it holds the reins too tightly and is afraid to let the
animal go into a gallop. The horse and the rider must work together and this means that we
consider our actions beforehand and we bring as much thinking as possible to a situation before we make a decision. But once we decide on something we loosen the reins and we enter action with boldness and a spirit
of adventure and power. And it’s often hard for us to admit that we are the horse because, in order to master our emotions we need to understand why
we feel the way we feel which can often bring up
incredibly painful things from our past that we have buried deep inside our subconscious and most people go their whole lives
without facing these demons. So, my question for you is, do you think you’re more of a rider or a horse? Check out my last video
about the simple trick that will motivate you for
life and I’ll see you there.

David Anderson

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100 thoughts on “How To MASTER Your Emotions (Animated Story)

  1. Mitch Manly says:

    If you guys are interested in reading the book, don't buy it yet. My next video is also on a topic from the book, and I'm working on a deal with Audible where I'm hoping EVERYONE can read it for 100% free.

    So be sure to have the bell on, to get notified when that video comes out!

  2. Parker Larsen says:

    Another great book to read is called: relentless from good to great to unstoppable

  3. chien tek says:

    Good story, but lousy foster parents…

  4. chandini bhandari says:

    The thing to watch is at 10:05

  5. Demon kitty's Art stuffs says:

    What’s the book called

  6. Demon kitty's Art stuffs says:

    What’s the book called

  7. Joey B. says:

    Y’all really had me feeling for Ben. Almost cried. This video helped me a lot

  8. Anonymouse 777 says:

    DEFINITELY more of a horse😭but I’m working on it

  9. Dafnesharing says:

    Wooowww!!! Fantastic!!
    Thank's !!!!

  10. Sugar's Bro says:

    Hey I'm still confused how to ride my emotions perfectly!

  11. Sugar's Bro says:

    Was that kid, Tom riddle from Harry potter.

  12. neverbows says:

    Horse = Limbic system
    Rider = Frontal lobe thought

  13. Epinoob22 says:

    If my bully got adopted and I would never see that bitch again I would have thrown a freaken party for that dude. Maybe build an effigy in dedication for that guy.

  14. Sam says:

    Your mic is so sensitive that I can hear every morsel of saliva in your mouth. I want to finish the video, but I can't. So disgusting.

  15. Manju Parimala says:

    Iam more of horse in other words i felt like i was Ben but i live with my real parents though

  16. Martin Kamenov says:

    fuck ben

  17. Adam says:

    The best way, I believe, to take control of your emotions is to take control of your life, as believing your happiness comes from factors you can control (such as hobbies) over factors you can't control (getting adopted) will make it much easier to control your emotions. Ben was dealing with so much psychologically, none of which was his fault. It's no wonder, with all he's been through, why he was feeling that way. I believe the second Ben decided that he would be happy if he got adopted by a foster family, he automatically set himself up for an emotional rollercoaster of a life, because he decided to put his happiness into something he can't control. When he felt like he was going to get adopted, he had pure joy, and when he didn't (or thought he was going to a bad place), he was extremely sad. The very high ups and drastic low downs that Ben faced are very indicative of a person who has a low internal locus of control. The answer for Ben wasn't too "punch bags until he got tired". Admittedly, it helped him find something he enjoyed, some factor that he could control and that could give him happiness on the inside. But, that was luck. There was no guarantee that Ben would like boxing. The idea that Ben got "lucky" with boxing, I believe, is sending the wrong message. When Ben went back to the trainer, he did so because he believed the trainer was the only person who had actually expressed interest in trying to help him. Ben (to no fault of his own), was continuing to put his happiness in other people's hands. I'm very happy he found something that made him happy, and that's the important message here, not the one where you "get your emotions out by punching". This doesn't get rid of the rollercoaster, but just makes it more manageable, when in reality there is a way to (at least significantly) decrease the amplitude of that ride. Ben got more control of his emotions because he got more control of the things that make him happy, and that's a lesson I think we can all learn from 🙂

  18. Hollywood hangouts_india says:


  19. Ben Lindquist says:

    Why is it always me 🙁

  20. • I love Nothing but Peace says:

    Great vid and great advice thanks Mitch

  21. Swico 2004 says:


  22. Joshua Allison says:

    Dude your videos demonstrate everything that's wrong with people in this world. You act like that kid is wrong. No one gives a fuck about that poor boy and that's what's wrong with people.

  23. Namicatt says:

    1. Go to therapy
    They can teach you much more about yourself and your emotions better than YouTube videos. If you don't like you're first therapist try a different one. They're not all the same. But the best therapist can help so mucj

  24. Miko Na says:

    Take it, take it, take it and… let it go.

  25. Spectacular Ultimate Spider-Man says:

    I know a former Wiki Contributor who may as well be more of a horse and was pretty unstable, User Name is Spider2488 got kicked off The FANDOM Site

  26. Starving Melons says:

    I m a rider for sure but the one that falls off the horse !

  27. Black cat photography says:

    I really like your videos. keep up with that.

  28. E 827 says:

    The story is beautiful 🥺😭
    I once read a saying which goes like train your mind to be stronger than your emotions.
    Thank you 🌹

  29. Abyss Walker says:

    Horse. Slowly teaching myself to slow down and think before act. So far so good. Btw, nice story worth sharing. Thank you

  30. Ade doyin says:

    Even when they get into a relationship, they become too attached and sometimes violent or possesive cos they get scared that the girl might leave them. its hard for them as the society feels like its thier fault when in fact its how he was raised but unfortunatley he has to deal with it ..

  31. Evaldo D says:

    Good teacher can you permanently!

  32. Vivian Xin says:

    I feel like I'm both but mostly rider, I either hold my reins so tightly my hand hurts or just let them go completely, there's no in between 😂😂😂

  33. Huy Đỗ says:

    I don't know how i feels ? I full of rider but no energy of horse.

  34. Katherine says:

    It's not always easy. It takes time…

  35. Vrushank Kamble says:

    Rider baby 💓🤟🔥

  36. Steven Dalloesingh says:

    That was some jaw-jab… 😉
    Awesome video! Your animator deserves a raise!

  37. Anthony Carmona says:

    Leo and his bro would be proud

  38. Darky says:

    All i wana reach is 100 subscribers so i can start my Career My Life is So Sad Iv’e Never Reached Any Goal HELP ME

  39. Miguel Calixto says:

    My life in one video thank you so much..

  40. omg aLi bro says:

    Good lesson.

  41. WorldOfMoonzie says:

    I'm more a rider and like nth of a horse :((((((((((
    What do I do now?

  42. snonc says:

    it's Ben AGAIN?
    Is this the same Ben that got polio and almost died?

  43. Fatima Khan says:

    Is it weird that I didn't even know what the horse and the rider meant but instantly knew I was a horse?

  44. Manasa Jayanthi says:


  45. Sidhant Gurung says:

    But it's nt da solution

  46. cheryl enriquez says:

    i mastered my emetion already by singing alot off xxxtentacion everyday

  47. Matilde Taddei says:

    I'm feeling like a horse that is afraid to rum and a rider that doesn't know how to ride can someone translate it into actual emotions please?

  48. Aditya pandey says:

    Chutiye lavde story mat hepa Kar directly btaya Kar bhosadike ….itna bada video banata hai chodu

  49. frdrsch says:

    Its like this soviet cartoon "Shoe and shoelace – One is meaningless without the other" soviet anthem plays

  50. Lavina Vivares says:

    I'm a rider because I think too much and don't actually do it

  51. Kyle Mckillen says:

    No wonder he has anger problems… He's an adidas chav

  52. Nick Saffari says:

    Love your vids

  53. Rizwan Mahmud says:

    If anyone wanna share anything I'm here.. I'm a good listener.

  54. Brooney Elite Ave says:

    Your sound 🔊 is awful

  55. AeySiD says:

    Basically i'm a psychopath, I cry for those who don't really care about me, I always think think and think, I want to be happy, but i always become sad for someone else's problem or pain even tho i don't know them personally but, by watching or reading about them.. I want to get rid of this problem… Why do i always get depressed b'coz of someone else whom i dont even know by just watching or reading something bad or painful about them… Pls HELP :((

  56. Khan Skywalker says:

    Psychologist in training here: You CANNOT control your emotions. You can only control your thoughts. But..

    Over time as our thoughts will cause us to experience situations through different perspective lenses, causing us to evoke a different emotion, altering the initial emotion.


    1. Girl hates all guys because some fuckface cheated on her. Distrust, distaste and contempt towards men onsets.

    2. Elder brother/father/ friend assures her that not all guys are like that, listens to her, empathizes. Girl starts telling herself (healthy, positive thoughts) not to judge all men and be more open-minded. She may still feel some hurt but her mind is stronger and tells her to give benefit of doubt.

    3. Girl meets a cool and friendly guy and is attracted to him. She experiences a healthy, loyal relationship. Her emotions toward men has changed again, because of her positive thinking.

  57. Chulavibes says:

    I'm a horse but I dont know why lol I have anxiety n some days it's so hard for me to control my thoughts and emotions. That's why I'm too scared to get into a relationship or anything, I'm scared of how ill start acting or lashing out lol 😂😭😭

  58. Kings Land says:

    Very nice voice I'm subscribed your Chanel only for your voice God bless you .

  59. LiveLaughElizabeth says:

    You don't know man how much you've changed my life with this videos

  60. B Eriksson says:

    This is the story of my life.

  61. M J says:

    The narrator is what I imagine therapists will sound like when robots take over

  62. Mr. FBI says:

    im a king

  63. Zibit X says:

    Soooo centaurs are the perfect humans ?

  64. SevenDeMagnus says:

    Hi. Self-control, one of the catholic virtues.

  65. Never Quit Attitude says:

    Which mike are you using man

  66. Relentless_Animal says:

    Why is Ben always the one.

  67. Ernesto J. Bello says:


  68. Lan Shred says:

    If you're sad or mad just go to the gym.

  69. Real Force says:

    Guys, I really have an interesting video about trust, about relationships between humans, So If you have lost your faith in people common watch my video then you will understand something new about life social life

  70. NightTime Ninja says:

    *gets hit in the jaw*
    *Gets a black eye*

  71. Marko Djuric says:

    Name of the book please!?

  72. BlitzRose Snodrop says:

    Nope, I'm a lonely rider that sometimes gets trampled by some random wild ponies.

  73. Julio Peraza says:

    Love this histories

  74. AntigonMKD says:

    Horse i guess

  75. Rudraksha Dole says:

    I'm a horse….I want to change my situation. Please guide.

  76. FelixBoyx says:

    But how do I become more of a rider?You just told us the traits of being the rider.

  77. Scottie too hottie says:


  78. Gemein Hardd says:

    Story too long so. Boring

  79. Strom Breaker says:

    Him:do you think you are more of a rider or a horse??
    Me: I'm a lead farmer motherf***

  80. Shanu vlogs says:


  81. theTruth says:

    Anyone dealing with this please read eckhart tolle’s book “the power of now” this book changed my life🙏🏽

  82. Simul ki says:

    I literaly teared up when Ben finaly got adopted!

  83. Soto says:

    Rider definitely

  84. Rena Garcia says:

    Great Ending 😘 😇 it's good he went back to get the Book 😉

  85. • Lulu • says:

    Everything is ben

  86. Black beast says:

    i feel ben, i almost cried. i always was bullied in elemntary school, didnt know why. i was always sad and had anger problems. the ting is i had was afraid to defend myself. one day my dad got me punching bag wieghts to lift. i started working out in 6th grade. one day my main bully aproched me, i was full of rage inside im now finally strong. i landed a knockout and knocked him 2 meters. everyone looked at me. after 1 month i stopped getting bullied. but here is my biggest regret in life, i stopped working out, i thougt they will never return. 9 months later, i got bullied again. i wasent weak but not as strong as i was. now im in 7th grade and i feel sad again. i keep isolating my self from everyone. they have friends, hobbies and everything. i have a stroked angry dad, a anoying little brother and almost no friends, my only friends live far away from me. i did get a few suicidal thougts but i got over them. however i still isolate myself. idk what to do.

  87. Ian Sloan says:

    Smart Greeks

  88. Julie Nichols says:

    When I was in 4 shitty foster careless homes in less than 3 months I went from the fat to the fire

  89. Julie Nichols says:

    WOW I GET IT OMFG 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

  90. tkh1001 says:

    this is me exactly with woman sigh

  91. Zeinab Saeed says:


  92. Peekaboo says:

    People who is a horse I feel like they have less empathy like me…

  93. Vee Valentine says:

    Judging from my profile picture I’m a bloody horse. Let’s add a “W” for the hell of it and call me a “Whorse”.

  94. Healing heart says:

    If the horse can be controlled by the rider .How to control a tyran rider ?

  95. Gagandeep singh says:

    I'm a rider but want to be both

  96. thientuan533 says:

    Rider cause i'm quite resversed

  97. JV says:

    I am more a rider, it's true
    I am an introvert…
    Worse lone wolf

  98. Cristian Guerrero says:

    that voice makes me feel so good duude

  99. Ali Arsenal says:

    Hi, how to prevent myself from getting angry when I got killed in a game session. Not just angry, but rampaging if I must say. Like shouting and cursing. My Playstation account got banned because I cursed people via DM, they reported my account. Lol. But I am like.. forgot where I am when I am in rage mode. Please help.

  100. Kurt Yves Mier says:

    "The Laws of Human Nature"
    – by Robert Greene

    Took me a month to read this thick book. The kid must be a genius for finishing it in one night.

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